Did you know that marrying someone for love is a recent phenomenon?
It’s not that people in the past did not marry because of love. There were those who did. It just wasn’t the norm. Love has not always been the main motivation for marriage.
Think about it. Western culture, especially American, is the one strongly pushing the concept of marrying for love. And yet, the rising rate of divorce and broken relationships seems to suggest that this concept may not be working.
Are there better reasons to marry? Companionship? Procreation?Partnership? Productivity? Spiritual compatibility? Economic advancement?
Today, we expect our life partner to fulfill all our emotional, psychological and social needs. Is this expectation really reasonable? Are couples unhappy because of having the wrong expectations?
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying you should just accept it if you are in an unhappy marriage. I’m just wondering whether we are looking for happiness in the right place.
Disappointment is the result of unmet expectations
What do you expect from your marriage?