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Why Does It Still Hurt When I’ve Forgiven?!?!

Forgiveness is  a choice not an emotion.

If someone owes you money, you can choose to hold the debt against them or choose to release them of the debt.

This is where we get the phrase “to forgive a debt”. To forgive is to no longer require them to pay what they owe.

This is your choice. Your feelings are not a necessary part of this decision.

So, why is it when you have forgiven someone, you still feel the sting in your heart? is it because you haven’t forgiven?

Why is it you still feel the pain?

I’ve forgiven, I shouldn’t feel anything against the person anymore, right?

Let me help you.

That feeling you feel is not the feeling of unforgiveness. You have already made the choice to forgive.

That feeling you feel is the pain of the hurt.

Let me illustrate this.

Let’s say someone pinches you on the hand. It hurts right?

Let’s say you forgive her. How long does the hurt last?

Surely, no more than an hour right?

So, you’ve forgiven her, the pain is a distant memory and you move on in life.

But, let’s say, someone takes a knife and stabs you in the stomach. And, thank God, you didn’t die.

You forgive him, but how long will you feel the pain of the wound?

Months maybe!

Do you think the scar will ever be gone?

Maybe never!

You may have forgiven the person who hurt you, but the pain of the hurt may stay with you for awhile. In fact, the scar of the hurt may never go away!

The same applies to your heart.

When someone wounds your heart, depending on the extent of the wound, it may take some time to heal.

Even if your heart heals, sometimes, the scar remains.

So, that pain you are still feeling in your heart is not unforgiveness.

If you have truly made a decision to forgive, you may just need some time to heal from the hurt.

Don’t be too hard on yourself.

Forgiveness is a decision that can be made in a moment but healing is a process that cannot be rushed.

If you are going through this right now, my prayer is that the love of God will help you through your hurts and pain.

Hang in there!

Books: The Book Depository

I love books. I have more than 2000 books in my home library.

It is not easy to find all the books you want.  Most of the time, you have to buy them online.

The biggest problem with buying them online is that the shipping costs can kill you!

This is why I love The Book Depository!

WORLDWIDE FREE SHIPPING!!!!

Oh yeah baby!

Forget about Amazon or any other book website. Once you buy from The Book Depository, you won’t want to buy from any other online bookseller.

They also have this really cool feature called The Book Depository Live.

The Book Depository Live

It allows you to watch in real-time what purchasers all over the world are buying. It’s pretty fascinating for the voyeuristic book lover!

So, check out The Book Depository today by clicking here!

Macaroons: UnionJac

I love macaroons. But not all macaroons are alike.

I’ve tasted some really bad ones and I’ve tasted some heavenly ones.

UnionJac macaroons ranks in the heavenly category.

Utilizing premium ingredients, not only are these melt-in-your-mouth goodness, they are flavorsome!

UnionJac is the only baker I know that produces premium macaroons with edible designs. They make the perfect gits!

I loved the Cranberry Orange with Truffles Christmas macaroons.

UnionJac Christmas Macaroons

And these Pineapple Spiced Chinese New Year macaroons were brilliant!

UnionJac Chinese New Year Macaroons

This Valentine’s Day, UnionJac is producing their special “Jack & Rose” series inspired by the romance in the film Titanic.

UnionJac Valentine's Day Macaroons

“Jack & Rose” consists of rose flavored macaroons, delicately filled with a luxuriously silky smooth dark Belgium chocolate ganache surrounding a dollop of homemade raspberry jam.

UnionJac Jack & Rose Macaroons

If you want to give your loved one something special this Valentine’s, head on over to UnionJac’s official Facebook page here for contact details.

Last order by 12 noon, February 13th.

I can’t wait to get mine! Hint! Hint!

The Missing Pillar of Christianity

I don’t know about you,. but these past few years, I have been feeling restless.

I was born in a Christian family. I made a decision to follow Jesus when I was 21.

Practically my whole life I have been exposed to Christian teaching and influence.

Yet, in the past few years, I have felt that something is missing. Somehow, the Christianity I know did not feel complete.

If our message is true, then why doesn’t the results match what we put our faith in?

If we have got it right, then why do I see a big gap between the reality of the church and our so-called beliefs?

If we have arrived, then why do I feel like I’m so far from anywhere worth staying?

If you have been following the A New Gospel series, you would know that I think I’m beginning to find some of the pieces to the missing puzzle. I’m not there yet, but I think I’m getting close.

I believe I’ve discovered one of the missing pillars of Christianity.

You think you know it, but actually, you don’t. You think you understand it, but when you dig a little deeper, you realize that we’re really far from living it.

I believe this message can revolutionize not just the individual lives of every Christian but the Church as a whole.

Perhaps, I can help us get one step closer to what Jesus came to earth for.

You can download the full sermon here:

The Missing Pillar of Christianity

Heaven On Earth Part 1

I believe in the power of an idea.

If an idea is believed, lived out and passed on, that one idea can totally transform the world.

So, here’s my idea.

Instead of just trying to get to Heaven when you die, how about creating Heaven on Earth when you are alive?

Instead of just trying to avoid Hell when you die, how about helping others get out of their living Hell here on Earth?

Yes, the afterlife is important. In fact, where you end up in eternity is extremely important. But, is that all we care about?

How about right here, right now?

How about making our one short life count in the present?

Can you imagine if every single person on planet earth begins to think like this?

Can you imagine if we start to pool our time, energy and resources to bring Heaven to Earth?

So, where do we start?

First, look around you. Where do you find Hell on Earth?

Next, ask yourself, what does Heaven on Earth look like?

Then, spend some time thinking – How can I bring Heaven on Earth?

Share your thoughts with me in the comment section below.

In Part 2, we’ll talk more about Hell on Earth.

Books: Cafe David 1 & 2

You can now purchase Cafe David: Serving Coffee for the Soul – Relationships 1 and 2 online with free shipping!

Click here for Book 1

Click here for Book 2

In Book 1:

  • Why are Asian men NOT ROMANTIC?
  • How do I deal with disappointments as a result of UNMET EXPECTATIONS?
  • Why do women end up with INSECURE MEN?
  • How does choosing the WRONG FRIENDS forfeit my destiny?
  • Why are people so DYSFUNCTIONAL in their relationships?
  • Do you believe in marrying your BEST FRIEND?

In Book 2:

  • What is  ROMANCE all about?
  • Are women wired in such a way that they cannot imagine marrying their BEST FRIEND?
  • Are women really more TALKATIVE than men?
  • If you have been lying to a loved one, would you now TELL the truth?
  • How do relationships affect your DESTINY in life?

Includes Bonus Chapter on how David proposed to his wife!

Cafe David invites you to join in the lively debate around these topics on relationships.

Listen in on what others think and see whether you agree or not.

What are you waiting for? Pull up a chair and be prepared to have your thoughts provoked!

A New Gospel? Part 3

In Part 1 of this series, A New Gospel, I made the observation that there are 2 parts of the life of Jesus that are most emphasized – His Birth and His Death.

Consequently, the 2 most popular celebrations of the church are Christmas and Easter.

You might not have picked it up but there is a mismatch in the above statements.

Easter is not the celebration of the death of Jesus. It’s the celebration of His resurrection.

I remember when I was young, my father used to say, Good Friday should be celebrated more than Easter as the death of Jesus holds more significance than His resurrection.

Really?

Again, I want to suggest that this conclusion may be a result of reading the Bible through hand-me-down glasses.

Sure, His death is truly significant.

But, lots of good people have died in history. So-called prophets, messiahs and other enlightened human beings.

What sets Jesus apart is His resurrection.

His resurrection is the game-changer.

Anybody could have died and their life turned into a legend that spawns a religion.

But when somebody rises up from the dead and is seen by many witnesses, you have to pay attention.

Jesus accomplished something when He died. But what He was trying to accomplish was not completed until He resurrected.

Therefore, I want to suggest that we correctly celebrate Easter as a glorious reminder of the hope that we have in a resurrected Christ who is today victorious over sin and death and is ruling over all.

But don’t take my word for it.

Read the Gospels. Listen to the message of Jesus. Hear His words. See His life. Look at the epistles through this lens.

And get ready to be inspired by a powerful vision of what the resurrected Christ means today!

Wedding Videographer: Forza Pictures

A great wedding videographer is not just one who captures the day but one who tells a story.

Forza Pictures, based in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, is run by Sandra Boon, a creative storyteller.

Forza Pictures

I think her work speaks for itself. Check out these 2 videos!

Tip: Go full screen for the best experience.

You can check out more of Forza’s portfolio at their Vimeo channel here:  http://vimeo.com/forzapictures

You can also contact Forza at: bugsbcf@yahoo.com

Back To Drugs

After more than 5 years, I’m finally taking drugs again.

Towards the end of 2007,  I made a radical change of direction in my lifestyle.

It was based on my belief that our body was created to heal itself. The reason why we get sick is because our immune system is weak and is unable to deal with the attacks from bacteria, viruses and everything else.

Major change number 1 was moving to a predominantly vegetarian diet. A topic for another day.

Major change number 2 was deciding to no longer rely on drugs.  And consequently, no longer going to see a GP (doctor) whenever I felt sick.

Of course, for serious problems like back pain and issues with my ear, I would see a doctor. I’m talking about your usual bouts of flu and infections.

Why?

Well, generally, with western medicine, the approach is often to just deal with symptoms. The drugs attack the symptom, not cure the problem.

For example, Panadol might take away the pain of my headache but it won’t remove the tumor that is causing my headache!

Also, in Malaysia, doctors always prescribe antibiotics whether you need them or not. Not only does it harm you, it makes the bacteria more resilient!

Why would I want to pump these chemicals into my body?

I need a really good reason before taking drugs. Like the time when I had a tooth infection. If I didn’t take antibiotics and the infection spread, I could die!

So, for the past 5 years, I have been relying on natural remedies whenever I get sick. As long as I can strengthen my immune system, my body can heal itself.

So, I always joke that when people get sick, they will go to the clinic. When I get sick,  I go to the supermarket!

Well, I’ve been sick for the past few weeks and I’ve been travelling a lot so I’ve not been able to do my usual juicing.

A few days ago, I had such a bad cough, I thought maybe I caught TB from the country I just came back from!

Exercising wisdom, I finally went to see the doctor to get the usual dosage of antibiotics, cough mixture and lozenges.

As a result, I was reminded of another reason why I dislike these drugs. They make me drowsy!

So, for the past few days, I’ve been so unproductive. I felt like a zombie wandering around my house looking for brains to eat. Don’t worry, my wife is still of sound mind!

Honestly, there is another story behind my recent bout of sickness.

Towards the end of last year, I was just looking back on 2013 thinking that it has been my healthiest year. I haven’t been sick for an entire year!

I was feeling proud of myself that all the years of watching my diet has finally paid off.

When I was thinking this, I suddenly felt cold. Oh no. David, you’re going to pay for this.

Sure enough. 4 days before 2013 ended, I got sick!

That’s when I discovered that PRIDE is a much bigger sickness than flu bugs and bacteria!

A New Gospel? Part 2

In the first part of this series, A New Gospel, I suggested that we tend to interpret the message and purpose of Jesus through the epistles, the letters of the New Testament.

Why is this so?

Probably because the letters are more doctrinal and explanatory in nature. They seem to explain things more since they were written to different churches and individuals.

On the other hand, the Gospels seem to be just full of stories.

So, what happens is that, we end up interpreting the Gospels through the Epistles instead of the Epistles through the Gospels.

Or, as some have put it, we end up interpreting Jesus through Paul rather than Paul through Jesus.

Isn’t it strange that we should elevate Paul above Jesus? Isn’t there something wrong with this picture?

And this is why we end up missing out on a huge part of the purpose and message of Jesus.

If you still find it hard to accept what I’m highlighting here, let me give you one example.

Hilssong Word NLT Magazine Bible

Hillsong London has produced a marvelous magazine-style NLT Bible called Word. You can purchase it with free shipping here.

This Bible is arranged into 4 themes as explained in their introduction:

Hilsong Word NLT Book Order

The first 4 books you will read in this Bible to understand “What God has done, how and why?” are epistles! And guess which is the first epistle?

Romans!

At least Mark goes in there at the end.

You might think that this is not really a big deal.

Trust me, it is.

After reading the Gospels over and over again last year, now, when I read the epistles, I see things which I never saw before.

Ask my wife how many times I’ve said to her in the past few months, “Oh my goodness! This epistle doesn’t say what we always thought it said!“.

Again, I encourage you to find this treasure I mentioned in Part 1 of this series.

You will also be saying “OH MY GOODNESS!“.

Part 3 here