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Why Does It Still Hurt When I’ve Forgiven?!?!

Forgiveness is  a choice not an emotion.

If someone owes you money, you can choose to hold the debt against them or choose to release them of the debt.

This is where we get the phrase “to forgive a debt”. To forgive is to no longer require them to pay what they owe.

This is your choice. Your feelings are not a necessary part of this decision.

So, why is it when you have forgiven someone, you still feel the sting in your heart? is it because you haven’t forgiven?

Why is it you still feel the pain?

I’ve forgiven, I shouldn’t feel anything against the person anymore, right?

Let me help you.

That feeling you feel is not the feeling of unforgiveness. You have already made the choice to forgive.

That feeling you feel is the pain of the hurt.

Let me illustrate this.

Let’s say someone pinches you on the hand. It hurts right?

Let’s say you forgive her. How long does the hurt last?

Surely, no more than an hour right?

So, you’ve forgiven her, the pain is a distant memory and you move on in life.

But, let’s say, someone takes a knife and stabs you in the stomach. And, thank God, you didn’t die.

You forgive him, but how long will you feel the pain of the wound?

Months maybe!

Do you think the scar will ever be gone?

Maybe never!

You may have forgiven the person who hurt you, but the pain of the hurt may stay with you for awhile. In fact, the scar of the hurt may never go away!

The same applies to your heart.

When someone wounds your heart, depending on the extent of the wound, it may take some time to heal.

Even if your heart heals, sometimes, the scar remains.

So, that pain you are still feeling in your heart is not unforgiveness.

If you have truly made a decision to forgive, you may just need some time to heal from the hurt.

Don’t be too hard on yourself.

Forgiveness is a decision that can be made in a moment but healing is a process that cannot be rushed.

If you are going through this right now, my prayer is that the love of God will help you through your hurts and pain.

Hang in there!

Books: The Book Depository

I love books. I have more than 2000 books in my home library.

It is not easy to find all the books you want.  Most of the time, you have to buy them online.

The biggest problem with buying them online is that the shipping costs can kill you!

This is why I love The Book Depository!


Oh yeah baby!

Forget about Amazon or any other book website. Once you buy from The Book Depository, you won’t want to buy from any other online bookseller.

They also have this really cool feature called The Book Depository Live.

The Book Depository Live

It allows you to watch in real-time what purchasers all over the world are buying. It’s pretty fascinating for the voyeuristic book lover!

So, check out The Book Depository today by clicking here!

The Missing Pillar of Christianity

I don’t know about you,. but these past few years, I have been feeling restless.

I was born in a Christian family. I made a decision to follow Jesus when I was 21.

Practically my whole life I have been exposed to Christian teaching and influence.

Yet, in the past few years, I have felt that something is missing. Somehow, the Christianity I know did not feel complete.

If our message is true, then why doesn’t the results match what we put our faith in?

If we have got it right, then why do I see a big gap between the reality of the church and our so-called beliefs?

If we have arrived, then why do I feel like I’m so far from anywhere worth staying?

If you have been following the A New Gospel series, you would know that I think I’m beginning to find some of the pieces to the missing puzzle. I’m not there yet, but I think I’m getting close.

I believe I’ve discovered one of the missing pillars of Christianity.

You think you know it, but actually, you don’t. You think you understand it, but when you dig a little deeper, you realize that we’re really far from living it.

I believe this message can revolutionize not just the individual lives of every Christian but the Church as a whole.

Perhaps, I can help us get one step closer to what Jesus came to earth for.

You can download the full sermon here:

The Missing Pillar of Christianity

Heaven On Earth Part 1

I believe in the power of an idea.

If an idea is believed, lived out and passed on, that one idea can totally transform the world.

So, here’s my idea.

Instead of just trying to get to Heaven when you die, how about creating Heaven on Earth when you are alive?

Instead of just trying to avoid Hell when you die, how about helping others get out of their living Hell here on Earth?

Yes, the afterlife is important. In fact, where you end up in eternity is extremely important. But, is that all we care about?

How about right here, right now?

How about making our one short life count in the present?

Can you imagine if every single person on planet earth begins to think like this?

Can you imagine if we start to pool our time, energy and resources to bring Heaven to Earth?

So, where do we start?

First, look around you. Where do you find Hell on Earth?

Next, ask yourself, what does Heaven on Earth look like?

Then, spend some time thinking – How can I bring Heaven on Earth?

Share your thoughts with me in the comment section below.

In Part 2, we’ll talk more about Hell on Earth.

A New Gospel? Part 3

In Part 1 of this series, A New Gospel, I made the observation that there are 2 parts of the life of Jesus that are most emphasized – His Birth and His Death.

Consequently, the 2 most popular celebrations of the church are Christmas and Easter.

You might not have picked it up but there is a mismatch in the above statements.

Easter is not the celebration of the death of Jesus. It’s the celebration of His resurrection.

I remember when I was young, my father used to say, Good Friday should be celebrated more than Easter as the death of Jesus holds more significance than His resurrection.


Again, I want to suggest that this conclusion may be a result of reading the Bible through hand-me-down glasses.

Sure, His death is truly significant.

But, lots of good people have died in history. So-called prophets, messiahs and other enlightened human beings.

What sets Jesus apart is His resurrection.

His resurrection is the game-changer.

Anybody could have died and their life turned into a legend that spawns a religion.

But when somebody rises up from the dead and is seen by many witnesses, you have to pay attention.

Jesus accomplished something when He died. But what He was trying to accomplish was not completed until He resurrected.

Therefore, I want to suggest that we correctly celebrate Easter as a glorious reminder of the hope that we have in a resurrected Christ who is today victorious over sin and death and is ruling over all.

But don’t take my word for it.

Read the Gospels. Listen to the message of Jesus. Hear His words. See His life. Look at the epistles through this lens.

And get ready to be inspired by a powerful vision of what the resurrected Christ means today!

A New Gospel? Part 2

In the first part of this series, A New Gospel, I suggested that we tend to interpret the message and purpose of Jesus through the epistles, the letters of the New Testament.

Why is this so?

Probably because the letters are more doctrinal and explanatory in nature. They seem to explain things more since they were written to different churches and individuals.

On the other hand, the Gospels seem to be just full of stories.

So, what happens is that, we end up interpreting the Gospels through the Epistles instead of the Epistles through the Gospels.

Or, as some have put it, we end up interpreting Jesus through Paul rather than Paul through Jesus.

Isn’t it strange that we should elevate Paul above Jesus? Isn’t there something wrong with this picture?

And this is why we end up missing out on a huge part of the purpose and message of Jesus.

If you still find it hard to accept what I’m highlighting here, let me give you one example.

Hilssong Word NLT Magazine Bible

Hillsong London has produced a marvelous magazine-style NLT Bible called Word. You can purchase it with free shipping here.

This Bible is arranged into 4 themes as explained in their introduction:

Hilsong Word NLT Book Order

The first 4 books you will read in this Bible to understand “What God has done, how and why?” are epistles! And guess which is the first epistle?


At least Mark goes in there at the end.

You might think that this is not really a big deal.

Trust me, it is.

After reading the Gospels over and over again last year, now, when I read the epistles, I see things which I never saw before.

Ask my wife how many times I’ve said to her in the past few months, “Oh my goodness! This epistle doesn’t say what we always thought it said!“.

Again, I encourage you to find this treasure I mentioned in Part 1 of this series.

You will also be saying “OH MY GOODNESS!“.

Part 3 here

How To Spot A Scam

Barely 3 days after I posted the blog Do You Want To Get Rich Quick?, the latest Get-Rich-Quick scheme appears on my Facebook timeline.

A few years ago, a friend told me about this “Gold Investment” company which guarantees a 30% p.a. return. Straightaway, I said, it’s a scam.

As expected, I got the defensive response.

I discovered quite a few friends were into this “investment scheme”. One friend even told me that it has to be legitimate because he was introduced by a university professor who sits on the Board of the company. Surely, a university professor can be trusted?

I have learnt that when it comes to money, nobody can be trusted! Not even your mother!

Fast forward a few years and the company gets shut down by Bank Negara and many who donated their life savings are now still suffering.

Well, today,  I discovered a new “gold trading investment” opportunity.

Not offering 30% guaranteed return.

Wait for it.

Guaranteeing 120% p.a. return. Wow!

Not only that, you get 10% for introducing new suckers, I mean, investors. And not only that, you get additional bonuses based on the balancing of a binary MLM structure 10 levels deep.

Wow! So many bonuses!!!!! Quick invest!

Listen. One of the easiest ways to spot a scam is this rule:

If it’s too good to be true, it’s too good to be true!

As a general rule, run away from anybody who guarantees you 30% or more consistent return on an investment.

Nobody on planet earth can give that kind of guarantee.

Even the richest, most respected, most revered investor, Warren Buffet, cannot give you that kind of guarantee.

Do you know that in the past 30 years, Warren Buffet has only achieved an 18% annualized return on his investments? (source)

Warren Buffet? One of the richest men in the world. Only 18%?

Someone should ask him to put his money into this new gold investment scheme.

If it’s too good to be true, it’s too good to be true!

Remember this.

Nobody can stop you from investing into a scam. But if you introduce others to do so, you are responsible.

Don’t be a fool.

Do You Want To Get Rich Quick?

I’m sorry to say this.

If your answer to the above question is yes, then you’re a fool.

If I sound harsh, it’s for your own good. History is littered with the sob stories of millions wanting to get rich quick.

The best examples are lottery winners.

Wouldn’t you love to strike the lottery one day and suddenly have a windfall of millions? Imagine all the things you could do with all that money?

The truth is, most lottery winners eventually shipwrecked their lives and ended back in poverty.

Don’t believe me? Then check out these links:

19 Lottery Winners Who Blew It All
How the Lives of 10 Lottery Millionaires went Disastrously Wrong


Why is it foolish to desire quick riches?

The most obvious reason is that greed blinds you and leads you to make really stupid decisions.

But, even if you don’t make stupid decisions, the truth is, you can’t handle all that money.

How can you handle $100,000 when you haven’t handled $10,000?
How can you handle $1 million when you haven’t handled $100,000?
How can you handle $100 million when you haven’t handled $10 million?

Learn to build your wealth and you will get to keep your wealth.

There is a reason why things take time in life. We need time to grow.

Take the time to get rich and your riches will last beyond your lifetime!

Find out How To Spot A Scam in my next post here.

Bandung, Indonesia: Lawangwangi Creative Space

I love Bandung!

This is my 3rd trip to Bandung and I must say it is still one of my favorite places in South East Asia.

This time round our friend, Chriz Theo, recommended a place up in Dago called Lawangwangi. It is now my favorite place in Bandung!

Lawangwangi Creative Space

You can see from the featured picture above that the gate itself is an optical illusion. Lawangwangi is an art gallery and lounge.

This is one of the cool outdoor art installations.

Lawangwangi Art Installation

The lounge is on the top floor of the building and it’s a really classy space filled with art installations.

Lawangwangi Cafe

The best part is the deck that extends outside of the lounge.

Lawangwangi Deck

From here, you get a beautiful view of the Dago hills and the city of Bandung. This pic is taken from the end of the deck.

Perfect View from Lawangwangi

I could stay here all day. We really enjoyed watching the sun set over Bandung. Click on the pic to see the whole 200 degrees panoramic view!

200 Degree View from Lawangwangi

If you are ever in Bandung, make sure you check out this place. I’m not sure how good the food is but the arty farty vibe and the view is worth it!

You can get more details from their official FB page:

The gate and the lounge photos above are taken from the official Lawangwangi FB page.

A New Gospel? Part 1

I’ve been on an interesting journey in the past 1 year.

I’ve been asking more questions than I normally do and I’ve been constantly surprised by many of the answers I’m discovering.

One of the questions I’ve been asking is, “Why did Jesus come? What was His message?“. Ok, that’s actually 2 questions. But they are related.

I know what you are thinking. “Huh? That’s a no-brainer. Jesus came to die for our sins so that we can go to heaven.


Let me ask you a question. Which part of the Bible do we normally go to find the answer to this question?

Most Christians would answer, “The Epistles”. Yes, the letters in the New Testament. Specifically, Romans.

Hang on.

Shouldn’t we find out the purpose and message of Jesus from Jesus Himself?

Guess what I discovered.

The church generally only focuses on 2 parts of Jesus life. His birth and His death.

Guess which days you see the most people in church? You got it. Christmas and Easter.

Hang on.

What happened to everything in between the birth and death of Jesus?

I came to the realization that all this while I’ve been missing something really huge. It’s always been there but I never saw it because I was filtering everything through glasses I’ve been given to wear.

So, for the most part of 2013, I did my best to take off those glasses and listen to the words, ministry and life of Jesus afresh again. I tried my best to experience Jesus as though I had just met Him for the first time.

I went through the Gospels – Matthew, Mark, Luke and John over and over and over again. Not just picking a few verses here and there. But going through each book from start to end. Taking in as big chunks as I could.

I listened more than I read.

And I was shocked!

It was almost as though I discovered a New Gospel! Well, not really. But a much fuller, richer, deeper, transformational, compelling Gospel!

It’s like what Jesus said in Matthew 13:44,

God’s kingdom is like a treasure hidden in a field for years and then accidentally found by a trespasser. The finder is ecstatic—what a find!—and proceeds to sell everything he owns to raise money and buy that field.

I found treasure!

And I would like to invite you to find it too.

If it is at all possible, put aside all your preconceptions of why you think Jesus came. Take off the glasses you’ve been wearing all these years and try to see Him with fresh eyes.

Start with the book of Mark. Read it through 2-3 times. Then do the same with Matthew and Luke. Then John.

No time to read? Invest in an audio bible. Listen to it every day as much as you can.

It is my prayer that you too would find this treasure hidden in the field. A treasure so great, you would sell all to buy the field!

Part 2 here